The Healing Insight Podcast

Dealing With Drama

In this episode, Sarah and Jez discuss how easy it is to get involved in drama that isn’t ours. They look at the Karpman Drama Triangle to give some insight into the different roles that we take on when drama is going on and how we can make a shift into the more positive Winners Triangle (Choy 1990) to help us to respond to situations rather than react, so taking the drama out of the drama. 

Self-Serving vs Selfish

In this episode, Sarah and J explore what being self-serving means and how important it is. They look at how when you are doing what's important for you and what is for your highest good you aren't being selfish, you are serving your own needs and so ensuring that you are doing what is going to make you happy. They discuss the importance of doing things to recharge ourselves and how important it is to take responsibility for ourselves and our own needs.

Gratitude

In this episode, Sarah and Jez look at how having gratitude not just for things/experiences for yourself but also for the positive effect they can have on others helps to keep you in a positive mindset. They discuss that all of us have things/experiences/relationships to be grateful for and that gratitude is a state of being that comes from within. They suggest some ways of helping us to be more aware of being grateful so that we can make gratitude a habit. 

Taking Things At Face Value

In this episode, Sarah and Jez explore how it is important to take things/people at face value from a place of love without judgement, yet having awareness that may alert you to things not being quite as they seem. As they discuss it often takes time to see beyond what is initially presented to us but it is our choice as to how we respond. Being your authentic self at all times is important and that doesn't mean that we necessarily tell our complete story to someone that we have only just met but we do our best to be loving, non-judgemental and compassionate in all situations.
Withholding information is not necessarily a bad thing as we need to feel safe to present information that may make us feel vulnerable. Putting a mask on to hide who we are is different from the roles that each of us plays in our day-to-day lives and often when we feel we need to put a mask on, the person we are deceiving the most is ourself and we need to go inwards to discover what it is we need to address. 

Risk Taking

In this episode, Sarah and Jez explore risk-taking and discuss how we assess risk all of the time. They look at how our reference points from our previous experiences affect our perception of risk and so may affect whether we are willing to take a risk or not. They also discuss how our perceived fear of an outcome may stop us from taking risks so it is important to ask ourselves, "What is it that is stopping me from taking a risk/leap of faith and allowing myself to move forward?"
Risk-taking is often mostly thought of as being when we are looking at taking a perceived big risk, but just crossing the road presents us with risk that we assess regularly. They remind us of how we are responsible for the risks we choose to take and how the majority of risks that we take are not irreversible - if we don't get the desired outcome, we can reassess the situation and make other choices in order to get to the desired outcome.

Community

In this episode, Sarah and J explore what ‘community' means and how it is more than the local community that we live in. They discuss how having a sense of community and being part of a community gives you a sense of belonging which is an important psychological need according to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. They look at how you can belong to several different communities that they suggest may be a group of like-minded people. They also talk about neurodiversity and how everyone has their own special gifts and skills and so we can all contribute in different ways to the different communities so complementing the skills and gifts of other members of those communities. 

Choices

In this episode, Sarah and Jez explore choices and how we always have choices open to us even when we feel like we don't have a choice. They explore how choices have consequences/outcomes which help to give us learning as we move along our journey of self-discovery. They look at how when we make choices from a place of fear we are in our heads and when we make choices from a place of love we are in our hearts. They also discuss how choices are neither good nor bad they are an opportunity for learning and growth. 

Trust

In this episode, Sarah and Jez explore the meaning of trust and how important it is to learn to trust yourself, your intuition and your instincts so that you go with the flow. They look at how when you are able to trust you are able to let go of outcomes and so open yourself up to other possibilities. 
They discuss how trusting ourselves and not trying to control what happens will lead us to a better outcome which will be for the highest good of all concerned and whilst it may not be the expected outcome it will be what is needed to bring about growth through the lessons that are there for us. When we are able to trust ourselves it allows us to change direction easily if that is what feels correct and is needed for us to have the experiences that we have agreed to have and learn from. 

Being Reflective

In this episode, Sarah and Jez look at the importance of reflection and how, when you reflect from the heart and are open to learning opportunities you can gain insight and understanding of the learning from the experience and any changes you may need to put into place to help you to move forward in a positive way. They discuss the importance of reflecting from the heart so that you don't overanalyse and limit the insights and understanding of the experience.

Being In Balance

In this episode, Sarah and Jez discuss what being in balance means and how important it is to be aware of whether you feel in balance, and centred. They explore how everything comes from within and so how if we aren't in balance within ourselves then it can affect our outside world. They also look at how important it is to feel before thinking so that we don't overanalyse things and so stay in our hearts and allow our hearts to lead.